YOUR path to least resistance

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Tired of yo-yo dieting and trying every new fad diet that pops up only to spend loads of money with empty results? Frustrated with relationships that seem either one sided or fall short of fulfillment or maybe you’re career path is less than satisfying and each day it takes more energy than you can muster up to do your best? Do you feel like there is less and less time in your life when you feel relaxed and you continue to go through the motions day after day just waiting for something to give?   Can I get a “hell yeah!”

In the world of business entrepreneurs are individuals who have a common mindset, they create solutions for problems. They start businesses because they can solve a problem.  They take risks, they are courageous and they are motivated not by success but by fear of failure.  No entrepreneur ever said “I’m going to try this and I hope that it works”.  They create and lead teams to support their vision, they refine what’s working and what’s not so they can build a sustainable company.  Sound familiar? It’s you and your life is your business.

There comes a time when you become the employer instead of the employee in your own life. You start listening to your own instincts and intuition, you surround yourself more with supportive people and then you look at what’s working and what’s not so that you can create your own solutions for your own problems.

Too often we adopt the “I want what she’s having” syndrome, if it works for someone else then it will work for me and what we forget is that everybody is different and the most sustainable solution of all is the one we create for ourselves. When we adopt another person’s solution and it fails us we then blame ourselves, telling ourselves that we are not strong because we did not succeed as the other person had and we beat ourselves up to eventually deplete what little self-esteem we have left.

There was a time when I was feeling worn-out, defeated and even a little sorry for myself when one day i was told by someone whom I was complaining to that “hope is not a strategy” and it was then that I realized that i needed to start creating my own solutions.  I had to create a plan that i owned as my own with solutions that only i was in control of.

If you expect the people in your life and the world around to make you better then your screwed so I urge you to take time to sit quietly and process your thoughts and make an honest plan by asking yourself:

• What are 3 immediate actions that I will add into my day starting today? (drink more water, journal gratitude, meditate, move more,etc.)
• What are 3 goals that I will achieve in 30 days? (continue to drink more water, journal gratitude daily, meditate, move more, etc.)
• When I accomplish these goals how will I feel?

Thee highest levels of performance come to people who are centered, intuitive, creative, and reflective – people who know to see a problem as an opportunity. Deepak Chopra

Balance? Must i be a gymnast or a circus act?

“Balance” has been a word buzzing around for a some time now, I personally think it became popular when people started realizing that they were more frustrated than usual, however no one wanted to use the word frustrated as it sounds similar to complaining. “Balance” is a relative word to stability and is there any woman out there completely stable? We share a universal search for balance among career, relationships, physical activity and spirituality.

When one of those fundamental areas of our life is not where we had planned,  we become frustrated and it affects another fundamental area and before you know it we’re locked in a game of domino’s and…our world is a mess. So how do we manage the balance you ask? Hide under your bed until it’s over?

We usually get wrapped up and focused on what’s out of line with our expectations instead of what is going good.  When our brain has concluded a theory (good or bad) it then gathers any information to support that theory. Remember the last time you might have said “I never have time to myself?” Did you then focus on every time you were doing something for everyone else?  Doing someone else’s laundry, carpooling more than your share, the only one working overtime?  What about the people on social media who you see enjoying vacation or fun things that you wish you were doing? What about when you’re the only one preparing dinner while your family members are sitting on the couch relaxing?

There are times when it’s harder to keep up or when life seems more frustrating than other times.  Life is comparable to a circus act, I’m sure you’ve all seen the plate spinner? A row of plates on a stick that must be kept spinning or else the plate will fall and break, does that sound familiar? Just as the performer runs from one plate to another, we do so in life, and while one area is spinning consistently without any need for attention another takes more focus and while all plates require some sort of attention, others require more from time to time.

As you go through life as though on a balance beam you will walk perfectly straight then there will be times that something pushes you to wobble, to feel unstable. You’ll lean more to one side as though your going to fall, you’ll struggle for a bit and then you’ll catch a force that brings you back to your center balance. Just as your checkbook, if you have more debits than credits you’ll get into trouble.

Our attitude, awareness and acceptance of life and all that it throws at us requires awareness and sustainability.Define your goals in what you want out of this one life you’ve been given and do whatever it takes to support those goals. If your goal is to live a healthier and more active life then take the time to prepare healthy meals and move more.  If you have a goal to have a happier relationship with your partner then make time to be with that person and learn what to communicate that makes you happier.

When you surround yourself with like minded people and environments you’ll see the opportunity for improvements in your own life, gather new positive thoughts and behaviors and crowd out old unhealthy ones.

It’s your life ~ create it ❤

Hello world!

I’m here and ready to share! Stay tuned! ❤ Stacey